1.6.09

The Art of letting go

It’s over. He’s gone.

Why do we have to part while
the love is still there?
Why do we have to suffer?
Why do we have to cry when
somebody bids goodbye?
Why do beginnings have an end?
Why do we have to meet
only to lose in the end?

There are questions left unanswered,
words left unsaid, letters left unread,
poems left undone, songs left unsung,
love left unexpressed,
promises left unfulfilled.

In a relationship,
one of the hardest things to do
is saying goodbye and letting go.
It is as hard as breaking a crystal
because you’ll never know when you
will be able to pick up the pieces again.
More often than not, they who go,
feel not the pain of parting:
it is they who stay behind that suffer,
because they are left
with memories of a love
that was meant to be,
a love that was.

At the beginning and at the end
of a relationship,
we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone.
Unfair as it may seem,
but that’s the way love goes.
That’s the drama, the bittersweet
and the risk of falling in love.
After all, nothing is constant but change.
Everything will eventually come to its end
without us knowing when,
without us knowing how,
without us even knowing why.
And we must forget not because we have to
but because we have to.

In letting go, sorrows come
not as a single spy but in batallion.
It seems that everywhere you go,
everything you do,
every song you hear,
every turn of your head,
every move of your body,
every beat of your heart,
every blink of your eye and every breath
you take always reminds you of him.
It’s like a stab of a knife,
a torture in the night.
Funny how the whole world
becomes depopulated
when only one person is missing.
Just imagine,
there are billion people on earth
and yet it seems you feel lonely
and empty without the other.

I don’t know if it’s worth calling an art,
but letting go entails
special skills sparkled
with a considerable space and time.
Time heals all wounds but it takes
a little push on our part.
Acceptance plays a part.
Not all love stories end with
"…and they live happily ever after."

Sometimes we have to part because of
circumstances beyond our control.
We have to suffer if it would
mean happiness for others.
We have to cry to
temporarily let go of the pains.
Every beginning has its end
like every dawn has its dusk.
It’s something we can’t control,
something we had to live up.

It’s over.
He’s gone. But life has to go on.
Goodbye doesn’t always mean forever.
There will always be a place and time
where questions will be answered,
words will be spoken,
letters will be read,
poems will be recited in the night,
songs will be sung in harmony,
love will be expressed in solitude and
promises will be fulfilled.
Somewhere. Somehow. Someday.

----isa po itong repost mula sa aking blog sa FS. Sinulat ko sya noong june 2006 after my ex BF broke up with me. Wala lang, i just want to share with you..:D

21 comments:

Trainer Y said...

may mga bagay na mas nararapat na hindi na lang pag-usapan..
mga bagay na mas nararapat na hayaan na lang lumipas..
kapag nagmahal ka at nasaktan... expect to be hurt much more in the process of letting go..
youll be hurting for quite some time..thats what amkes you human..
in due time you get over the pain.. you get over everything.. you move forward and you start preparing yourself for a whole new chapter in your life.. and you start preparing your heart to open up and love again..

2ngaw said...

Nosebleed :( pengeng tissue!!!

EǝʞsuǝJ said...

@yanah..
honga..
naghahalungkat lang ako ng posts ko sa FS blog ko nung nakita ko toh..:D
its not connected with the present bakla..
:)

@CM..
haha..
kats it pare!
ayan isang box na tissue..nyahahaha

Deth said...

kakanta na sana ako...
put away the pictures..
put away the memories...

hehehe...
amen to yanah...
2years na kong naka-stuck sa process na yan, minsan nakakapagod na...minsan ayoko nang isipin...pathetic na nga tingnan...nakakasawa na kumbaga sa ilang kaibigan,hehe.

ngiti lang ng ngiti...nyaaaah! walang sense me...

Trainer Y said...

baket defensive?
wal;a naman akong sinabing konektado yan sa kasalukuyan ah.. tsk tsk tsk

Trainer Y said...

nahuhuli ang isda sa sarili niyang bibig
ahihihihihi

Ken said...

Akala ko entry sa PEBA about sa lovelife mo sa Dubai. hahaha!

Nice Jen. The ART OF LETTING GO.

A-Z-3-L said...

"after my ex BF broke up with me"

kaya painful dahil ikaw ang iniwan or because of the reason itself?

life has to go on...

kahit iniwan ka, kahit ikaw ang nang-iwan... pareho lang ung masakit. magkaibang intensity nga lang syempre.

bata ka pa...
madami pang makikilala.
madami pang mamahalin.
madami pang sakit na dadaanan.
madami pang pagmamahal na mararamdaman.

be tough. tougher. dahil hindi nagiging mas madali ang obstacle race ng buhay habang tumatagal!
lalo itong humihirap jen!

EǝʞsuǝJ said...

@deth...
hehe.
actually dun ako nakakuha ng wanport na drama eh..sa kantang yun :D

hehe..
ako din nearly two years..pero im ok na ngayon..
kelangan lang pala maging optimistic about it..:D
yeah..ngiti lang ng ngiti..wag lang mag-isa ahh..haha

@yanah...
haha
di ako depensib..
adik ka..
yun ang alam ko..haha

EǝʞsuǝJ said...

@kuya kenji...
may ganun?
hehe..
yung sa peba mga one month na lang lalabs na..hehe
tenks kuya..:)

@azel...
di ko alam ehh
ang alam ko halos pareho lang talga yung feeling :(

naks..
opo..tatandaan ko yan
and as the yrs go by naman, madami akong natutuhan..
madaming dumaan at nawala...
but eventually..I SURVIVED..:d

Jez said...

love will be expressed in solitude and promises will be fulfilled.

>> hayyyy, love
>> hayyy, life

time.time.time.
it will come.

Anonymous said...

Question.

Naka-move on na ba tayo nyan? ;)

Hermogenes said...

valemtaYms na valentaYms ang kapaligiran dito a...

nadala pa ako sa makabagbag damdaming bizaare love (acong)triangle... ahehehe

poging (ilo)CANO said...

di na lang sana ako nagbasa..lintik!..lol..

di ko naintindihan...

kung may umaalis may dumarating (daw)...adik!

PaJAY said...

Napaka ampalaya ng post!.....lolz...

batang narS said...

wow naman..hahahahhaa.nakakarelate ako sa poem mo..sobra.hahahaha.
pero nun yun..natnggap ko dn evntuali..after 10 months.nyahahaha.
ganyan talaga ang buhay..smetimes, you have to go when God knows u desrve sm1 bttr:)

gillboard said...

sya ba ang dahilan kung bakit ayaw mo nang bumalik sa pilipinas? hmmmm...

nakikiusyoso lang... hehehe

EǝʞsuǝJ said...

@jez...
very true..
hehehe..


@dylan...
nakamove on na poh..
iba naman ang kinakalimutan ngayon..
wahahaha...

@tonio...
nyahahaha...
may ganun pa?
amoy ampalaya nga yung post ehh

EǝʞsuǝJ said...

@b1...
hahaha
putek gumamit ka ng dictionary..
ako kase ganun lang ginwa ko nung ginawa ko yan dati..hahaha

sowz...:P

@pajay...
pr0f!
musta nman ang buhay2?
hahahah
ginisang ampalaya ba ulam mo?
hehehehe

EǝʞsuǝJ said...

@batang nars..
hehehe..
mabuti naman kung nakamove on ka na..hehe
yeah
ddting sya sa tamang panahon..
:D

@gillboard...
sort of
pero hindi naman
ikinasal or ikakasal na ata sya this june, im over it pare..haha...

The Pope said...

Well, kiddo, it takes a strength to reminisce the bitter memories of our lives but it takes courage to let go of the past to face another chapter in life.

Life is a continuing journey, when you feel that your life is at the ebb of tide, don't leave, don't give up, just wait for the waters will rush back to your delight.

Life is Beautiful.